Are you feeling stuck and frustrated? Are you tired of feeling frustration in your life, whether it is in the area of your health, work, or personal relationships? Is frustration holding you back and keeping you stuck from living your dreams?
Well, if you said yes to the above questions, I have some very good news for you. Your frustration holds a golden treasure for you...
But, before I go any further and tell you more, let’s take a step back and look at what frustration really is.
So, what exactly is frustration?
Frustration is the result of repressing your feelings over a long period of time.
If your feelings are left unaddressed without expression, these feelings will build up. Pent-up feelings start to take on a life of their own! They are desperately searching for an outlet to release. Just imagine the steam inside a pressure cooker pot without a release valve.
The result of frustration can vary and these unaddressed feelings may express themselves at inappropriate times.
Some of the ways that frustration shows up in life can be emotional eating, addictive behavioural patterns that give a temporary ‘high’ such as shopping, drinking, eating, doing drugs, shop-lifting, binges, or repressed anger, gossip, cynicism, skeptism, road-rage, confusion, shame and guilt.
These behaviours are not the real ‘problem’ but are symptomatic of ‘frustration.’ Ultimately, engaging in them will leave you feeling powerless.
Where does frustration stem from?
Frustration usually happens when you don’t feel that it is ‘safe, desirable or acceptable to express your feelings and how you are feeling.
There are many reasons why you might not express how you feel. Maybe you are trying to avoid conflict. Or perhaps you fear the consequences of speaking up. Maybe you feel afraid of being judged or upsetting others.
This usually stems back to our childhood. Perhaps as a child you were told to keep quiet or were not given permission to express your feelings. If this happened you might have learnt that it is not safe to ‘speak up’.
My personal story of frustration
Frustration is a topic that is very close to my own heart.
In the past, it is an emotion that I have personally struggled with for many years. I suffered with so much frustration that I became frustrated with feeling frustrated!
When I was a teenager I felt so frustrated with my life that I used to be filled with red anger and I could feel all this energy boiling up inside of me. I didn’t know what to do with it so I used to close my eyes and imagine being in a world that was filled with long grasses, majestic trees and brightly coloured flowers that grew under big skies and warm sunshine.
Frustration is calling you to take action and express your feelings.
Feeling frustrated is an unsustainable emotion. It means that you are temporarily ‘putting up with something’.
Frustration is calling you to express how you really feel so that you can take new actions in your life and create different results.
Today I’m going to share with you 3 steps to help you move beyond frustration.
Step #1: Get clear on what emotions you are feeling
Ask yourself questions such as,
- What emotion am I feeling?
- Where am I feeling stuck?
- What would I love to be different?
If you find that your mind begins to justify or rationalize things, it may be best to engage right brain creative forms of self-expression such as drawing, writing, moving or singing.
One of my favourite ways to access my inner feelings is to write my questions with a coloured marker on a piece of paper with my dominant hand. Then, with a different colour marker answer the questions with my non-dominant hand. The answers that emerge from within are often profound!
Be honest with yourself and trust your ‘inner’ answers.
Step #2: Acknowledge your feelings
When I am working with a client in my ‘Break-through Healing Sessions’ I find that often ‘acknowledging’ the real problem can often be transformational.
It is important to be kind and gentle with yourself. Be curious and keep looking for deeper truths to emerge.
When you get to the heart of the problem, you will intuitively ‘know’. Perhaps you might even cry or release some tears. This is a very positive sign.
When pent up emotion is acknowledged, the energy in your body and life can begin to move again.
Step #3: Express your true feelings
Your emotions are energy and energy wants to move.
If your emotions are not being expressed then they are being repressed.
Through acknowledging and expressing your feelings to yourself and others around you, you can make new choices in your life.
As you express your truth, there will be people in your life who are inspired by what you are saying and will want to support you. There may also be people in your life who try to change your mind. Just notice how each person makes you feel. The people you want to surround yourself with are the people who want the best for you and want you to be fulfilled and joyful in your life.
Frustration is an invitation to grow
Frustration shows you where you are holding on to a limiting and disempowering pattern that you have now outgrown. It shows where you are ready to release old ways so that you can grow into the powerful and empowered person that you are here to be.
Now, I have a question for you… What is one frustration that you are wanting to let go of today? Let us know in the Comments section below!
With so much Love,
From my heart to yours,
Katrina Love Senn xo